Rediscovering My Voice: A New Chapter in Life, and Growth

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A few years ago, I embarked on this blogging journey with the simple intention of sharing my experiences—whether it was through travel stories, lifestyle tips, or documenting some personal milestones as a South African expat living in Germany (Yes Dona, I'm an expat not an immigrant). At that time, my life seemed straightforward, and the blog felt like the perfect platform to express that. However, as the years passed, so much has changed, and I’ve evolved in ways I could have never imagined. 


Since my first post, I got married and became a mother—life events that were both beautiful and deeply transformative. Along the way, I also experienced the challenges of birth PTSD and postpartum depression, realities that were far more difficult than I anticipated. Seeking help, I began therapy, a step that truly changed my perspective on mental health and self-care. I've also traveled more, faced unexpected health issues, and tried to balance the ever-growing list of roles I now occupy—wife, mother, woman in her 30s, friend, daughter, sister, and someone constantly trying to make sense of the world around her.


I’d like to think that with these experiences, I’ve grown wiser, more knowledgeable, and certainly more intentional about the way I live my life. This growth feels like the perfect foundation to restart my blogging journey, this time with more depth, perspective, and an even stronger desire to connect and share.


So, here we are—welcome back, my loves! I’m excited to take you along on this new chapter, and I can't wait to see where it leads.

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